Car Crash and On-going pain
Hi,
I was in a head on car accident last year, I was doing approx 25-30 the other car about 60mph on my side of the road, he has since been prosecuted. Two of my children were in the car, both treated by paramedics at the seen and I was taken on back and neck board to A&E., Although no broken beck I suffered with neck and head pain and considerable back pain, internal bruising and kidney pain I was percribed anitb itoics to heal the blood in urine, morphine, diclofenac etc and am still on these now (codeine instead of morphine now) along with 2 epidularals and 13 months of physio. I still have not driven as am affraid to drive, my mother aged 70 does the school run, drives them to after school clubs and weekend sport etc even as a passenger I cannot go down the road it happened which makes things difficult. The pain in my back is so bad from the prolapsed disc that I have nerve damage and leg spasums which a new spinal specialist last week said he feels I have no option but to have treated with a back operaton as foot is already numb and this will only get worse and I could end up on crutches permanently. He has also now said that although it is not yet two years he would descirbe my whiplash as chronic as it is unlikely to recover any more that it already has.
I was a carer for my younger son as he has a bowel condition but my mother now has to do most of this as I cant life (my son asked for me to pick him up as a birthday present last year!) we are really struggeling financially as I have to pay for taxi's and assitional holiday type clubs as I cant do much with them now (I am a single parent but do have my mum's help).
My youngest' claim has just been offered at Â?1900 which I feel is good, he was in the front on a booster and had cuts, burns and many many brusies but all healed within the year. My daugther in the back has an initial offer of Â?4500 but as she still has to do more play therepy I wish to wait for this to be resolved before anything with her - she suffers with really bad seperation anxiety now and cries every day leaving me for school and is distraught at every hospital appointment I go to incase I never come back.
My main questions are is this a good offer for her, is the prolapsed disc operation worth doing, I worry about pssible bad outcomes but I sometimes want to chop my leg off the pain is so bad, I take amitriptyline as well as everything else for the pain and an anti-anxeity medication to help me with the flash-backs and bad dreams. as well as a mental health therapist I do want to beleive that one day I will be well again and hope that I may in time even be brave enough to drive again but dont know when that will be, does anyone know what kind of figure they may eventually offer me so I might be able to put something aside for my children to make up to what has torn our family apart over the last year?
